Wednesday, September 24, 2008
Staying True to Yourself: The Frog Theory
I have an idea about why relationships fail.
Do you know how to boil a frog? I know it sounds disgusting but the metaphor just works so well for relationships that I just have to share it with you. If you drop a frog in boiling water, it’ll just jump out. However, if you put it in cold water and heat it slowly….well…it’s curtains for the frog, and of coarse they croak. (A bad pun for sure).
Relationships can die in the same way. People really want to be liked and seen in a good light. As a result, they work very hard at pleasing people and doing an admirable sales job so that the other person will think they are incredible. The problem, as I see it, is that people become who the other person wants them to be. One day they wake up and ask themselves “where did I go?” They are not even the person their spouse or significant other were attracted to. They have slowly changed into someone else and they need to escape.
Consequently, it is important to be self aware and stay REAL. That way you can avoid the fate of the frog and stay true to yourself. You are fabulous and perfect enough just the way you are.
